Disclaimer: This document has been modified from it’s
original. The creator is unkown and
similar checklists appear on many BDSM sites.
This checklist has been modified for those wishing to distinguish
between fantasy and real life scenes. It
also provides a place for the person filling it out to clarify whether or not
they’ve experienced a particular activity as either a sub or dom. While many specific items are for
submissives, they can just as easily be answered by the dominant partner.
Submissive / Dominant / Switch
Activity Checklist – June 2005
Willingness
on a scale of 0-5
0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and
don't like doing it. (In fact, may loath it.
It would turn you off and you would want this to be a hard limit.)
If you indicate a 1, this means you don't want to do
or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it was asked of you. You would be willing to do it to please your
partner if it they really wanted it. (Sometimes called a
"soft limit").
If you indicate a 2, this means you are willing to do
this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.
If you indicate a 3, this means you usually like doing
this activity, at least on an irregular or occasional basis.
If you indicate a 4, this means you like doing this
activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.
If you indicate a 5, this means the activity is a wild turn-on for
you, and you would like it as often as possible.
0 means no, this is a hard limit.
5 means go for it. Yes, please, I want some more.
Y is yes, you’ve experienced it
N is no, you haven’t
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Category |
Desire for this in fantasy play |
Desire for this in real life play |
Experienced this
activity as a sub ( Y or N) |
Did this activity
as a dom to a sub ( Y or N) |
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Abrasion |
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Age play |
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Anal sex |
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Anal plugs
(small) |
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Anal plugs
(large) |
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Anal plug (public, under clothes) |
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Animal roles |
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Arm & leg sleeves (arm binders) |
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Asphyxiation |
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Auctioned
for charity |
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Auctioned
for real |
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Bathroom
use control |
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Bestiality |
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Beating
(soft) |
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Beating (Medium) |
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Beating
(hard) |
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Blindfolds |
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Being
serviced (sexual) |
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Being
bitten |
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Breast/chest
bondage |
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Breath
control |
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Boot
worship |
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Bondage (light) |
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Bondage
(heavy) |
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Bondage
(multi-day) |
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Bondage (public, under clothing) |
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Breast
whipping |
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Breast
spanking |
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Brown
showers (scat) |
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Cages (locked
inside of) |
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Caning |
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Catheterization |
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CD Cum
Depravation hours |
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CD Cum
Depravation days |
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Cells/Closets
(locked inside of) |
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Chastity
belts |
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Boot worship |
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Choking |
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Clothespins
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Cock
worship |
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Collars
(worn in private) |
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Collars
(worn in public) |
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Competitions
(with other Subs) |
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Corsets
(wearing) |
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Costumes
(wearing) |
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Cuffs
(leather) |
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Cuffs
(metal) |
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Cutting |
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Dilation |
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Double
penetration |
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Electricity |
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Enemas |
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Enforced
chastity |
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Examinations
(as pet) |
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Examinations
(like doctor) |
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Exercise
(forced/required) |
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Exhibitionism
(friends) |
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Exhibitionism
(strangers) |
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Eye
contact restrictions |
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Face
slapping |
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Fantasy
abandonment |
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Fantasy
rape |
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Fantasy
gang-rape |
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Fisting
(anal) |
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Fisting
(vaginal) |
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Following
orders |
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Foot
worship |
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Forced
dressing |
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Forced
homosexuality |
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Forced
masturbation |
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Forced
nudity (private) |
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Forced
nudity (around others) |
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Forced
servitude |
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Full head
hoods |
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Gags (cloth) |
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Gags
(rubber) |
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Gags
(tape) |
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Gates of
Hell (male) |
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Genital
sex |
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Given away
to another Dom (temp)supervised / nearby |
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Given away
to another Dom (perm) |
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Golden
showers |
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Hairbrush
spankings |
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Hair
pulling |
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Hand jobs
(giving) |
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Hand jobs
(receiving) |
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Harems
(serving w/other subs) |
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Harnessing
(leather) |
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Harnessing
(rope) |
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Having
food chosen for you |
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Having
clothing chosen for you |
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Head
(giving fellatio) |
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Head
(receiving fellatio) |
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High heel
worship |
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Homage
with tongue (non-sexual) |
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Hot oils
(on genitals) |
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Hot waxing
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Housework
(doing) |
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Human
puppy dog |
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Humiliation
(private) |
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Humiliation
(public) |
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Hypnotism |
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Ice cubes |
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Including
others |
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Infantilism |
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Initiation
rites |
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Injections |
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Intricate
(Japanese) rope bondage |
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Interrogations |
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Kidnapping |
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Kneeling |
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Leather
clothing |
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Licking
(non-sexual) |
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Manacles
& Irons |
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Manicures
(giving) |
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Massage
(giving) |
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Massage
(receiving) |
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Medical
scenes |
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Modeling for
erotic photos |
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Mouth bits |
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Mummification |
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Nipple
clamps |
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Nipple
weights |
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Oral/anal
play (rimming) |
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Over-the-knee
spanking |
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Orgasm
denial |
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Orgasm
control |
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Outdoor
scenes |
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Outdoor
sex |
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Phone sex
(serving Dom) |
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Phone sex
(serving Dom's friends) |
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Piercing
(temporary, play-pierce) |
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Piercing
(permanent) |
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Prison
scenes |
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Pony slave |
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Public
exposure |
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Puppy play
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Kitty play
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Pussy/cock
whipping |
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Pussy
worship |
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Riding the
"horse" (crotch tort.) |
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Rituals |
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Religious
scenes |
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Restrictive
rules on behavior |
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Rubber/latex
clothing |
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Rope body
harness |
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Saran
wrapping |
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Scratching
- getting |
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Scratching
- giving |
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Sensory
deprivation |
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Serving |
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Serving as
art |
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Serving as
ashtray |
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Serving as
furniture |
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Serving as
a maid |
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Serving as
toilet |
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Serving as
waitress/waiter |
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Serving
orally (sexual) |
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Serving
other doms (supervised) |
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Serving
other doms (unsupervised) |
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Sexual
deprivation (short term) |
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Sexual
deprivation (long term) |
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Shaving
(body hair) |
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Shaving
(head hair) |
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Sleep
deprivation |
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Sleep
sacks |
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Slutty
clothing (private) |
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Slutty
clothing (public) |
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Spanking |
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Spandex
clothing |
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Speech
restrictions (when, what) |
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Speculums
(Anal) |
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Speculums
(vaginal) |
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Spreader
bars |
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Standing
in corner |
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Stocks |
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Straight
jackets |
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Strap-on-dildos
(sucking on) |
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Strap-on-dildos
(penetrated by) |
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Strap-on-dildos
(wearing) |
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Strapping
(full body beating) |
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Suspension
(upright) |
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Suspension
(inverted) |
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Suspension
(horizontal) |
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Supplying
new partners for Dom |
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Swallowing
semen |
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Swallowing
urine |
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Swapping
(with one other couple) |
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Swinging
(multiple couples) |
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Tattooing |
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Teasing |
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Tickling |
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Triple
penetration |
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Uniforms |
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Vaginal
dildo |
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Verbal
humiliation |
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Vibrator
on genitals |
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Voyeurism
(watching others) |
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Voyeurism
(your Dom w/others) |
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Video
(watching others) |
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Video
(recordings of you) |
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Water
torture |
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Wearing
symbolic jewelry |
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Whipping |
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Wooden
paddles |
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Wrestling |
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